According to a recent Caring.com survey, 58 percent of Americans currently do not have a will. For those with children under the age of 18, the numbers are even worse — only 36 percent of these parents and guardians have a will, meaning a full 64 percent of people who are taking care of minor children have no end-of-life plans in place.
Americans are really falling down on the job when it comes to estate planning in part because we just don't want to think about our own mortality. And it can be hard to worry too much about what will happen to our assets after we're gone since we won't be around to see it.
But dying intestate does have some pretty serious consequences, even though you won't be the one experiencing them. Here's the sobering truth about what happens if you don't have a will in place when you die. (See also: What You Need to Know About Writing a Will)
Who gets to make decisions about your young children if you're not around? For most two-parent households, it's easy to assume that there will always be one parent around even if illness, accident, or bad luck strikes the other. But what if you are a single parent, a divorced parent, or a parent in a blended family? Or what if — heaven forbid — something should happen to both parents at once? In that case, dying intestate would mean your state of residence will be making choices about your children's well-being, rather than you.
Even though the odds are in favor of parents living to see their kids reach adulthood, having a will in place can offer you peace of mind. It allows you to decide who will take care of your kids, rather than leaving it up to others to decide. (See also: Don't Make These 5 Common Mistakes When Writing a Will)
Let's say your closest living relative is your odious brother. You've never been close to him, and he's been nothing but abusive your entire life — but the last straw was when he made it clear that he disapproved of your long-term relationship with your live-in girlfriend, who is the love of your life.
If you die without a will, he will inherit everything, even if you want your assets to go to her.
The state assigns inheritance based on degree of familial relationship, since there is no other fair way of determining what you would have wanted. So even though you swore you'd never speak to your brother again, he will still be your sole heir if you die intestate.
This is a particularly tough problem for unmarried life partners. Without either a will or the legal status conferred by marriage, the death of one member of such a couple can be devastating to the surviving partner. Such survivors can lose out on everything from financial assets their partner intended them to have, to the very roof over their heads if the house they shared is part of the decedent's estate.
Even uncoupled individuals need to worry about this aspect of dying without a will. A never-married individual with no children may wish to leave all their worldly goods to a favorite charity. But without a will, the estate will go to your nearest relative, who might be someone you have never met. Better to have a will in place and know that your money will enrich the charitable institutions you care about, rather than have an estranged relative be glad you're dead. (See also: 6 Times You Need to Update Your Will)
After you pass away, someone needs to be in charge of the logistical details of your estate. That position is known as "executor," and their duties include:
Managing your assets until they can be distributed to your heirs.
Terminating your accounts and credit cards.
Notifying banks and government agencies of your death.
Paying debts.
Paying continuing expenses with estate funds.
Paying your final income taxes.
Supervising the distribution of your property.
When you write your will, you get to choose who will serve as executor to your estate. This is an important decision, since your executor will need to be trustworthy, will need to know you well enough to know where to find your important documents, and will need to be able to handle the sometimes considerable time commitment necessary to carry out all of the duties associated with the job.
Without a will in place, however, the court will appoint someone to the position of executor. While the court will generally appoint a surviving spouse or other family member as executor, this can potentially be disastrous if the court-chosen executor is unable to handle the responsibility. (See also: 9 End-of-Life Cost Savings Your Survivors Will Thank You For)
Probate is the legal process of determining the deceased's assets and liabilities and transferring title of those assets to the legal heirs. All estates over a certain dollar threshold must go through probate, but having a will in place can help speed up the process somewhat since it will take less work to identify and assess the deceased's property when it's already been specified in the will.
There are several reasons why you might want to spare your heirs a prolonged probate process. To start, the cost of probate can be expensive. While small estates can avoid probate — and the definition of small depends on which state you live in — estates over a minimum dollar threshold will have to go through the process, and the cost of probate will be taken from the estate. This means dying without a will can cost your heirs.
In addition, probate procedures are all public record, meaning anyone can learn more about your estate than you might want them to know.
Finally, the process of probate can be incredibly frustrating. Just ask the siblings of legendary musician Prince, who died without a will in April 2016. More than a year after his death, the court is still trying to determine the specifics of the musician's $200 million estate, including everything from who is a legitimate heir to who owns Prince's back catalog of music.
Your assets will be distributed after your death, whether or not you write a will. But without a will in place, it will be the courts deciding who gets guardianship of your children, who gets your assets, and who will take care of the logistics of your estate. Rather than put your loved ones through a difficult process that doesn't reflect your choices, take the time to write a will, and keep it updated throughout your life. Your family will be glad you did.
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